"He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me." (Matthew 10:37,38)
This is a familiar passage, often cited to show that our love for God must be greater than our love for anything else, even our own families. If asked, most Christians are aware that their answer should be: "I love God most of all -- more than my own family!" But how does that claim stand up against the evidence?
Here's a test to see if possibly you have the problem of loving your family more than God:
1) Do you neglect your spiritual duties to God in order to be with your family? For instance, have there been instances when you missed a Bible study or worship service in order to be with your kinfolk? Has a family reunion, a birthday party, a holiday celebration, or other such gathering kept you from assembling with the saints? If so, can you truly say, "I love God more than my family? 2) Do you "push yourself" in order to do things for and with your family, but you don't exercise the same diligence for God? Do you go, do, help, sacrifice, and work for your family even when you are stressed, don't feel well, are covered up with others duties, etc. -- yet you allow the same things to keep you from your appointments for God? Do you really love Him more than your family? 3) Are you unwilling to see your family members rebuked or disciplined for ungodly behavior? Does it make you angry if someone points out sinful actions in your relatives and suggests that repentance is needed? Does a Bible lesson or sermon that hits "close to home" make you simmer with resentment? Do these things indicate more love for family than for God?We know that we must love God more than even our own mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, sons or daughters -- but knowing this is one thing while putting it into practice is another. Think!
---Greg Gwin