I speak from personal experience and from reflections of others I have known and still know in prison. I have spent most of my life in prisons of one sort or another.
The first way young people destroy their lives is by seeking the wrong kind of place to belong when there seems to be no support at home. They are searching for attention, support and acceptance by anyone. Many times this comes in the form of gangs. The influence of gangs is very rarely positive. Gangs have reputations of trouble and those involved with them usually pay a dear price for belonging to one through death, prison, or physical and psychological harm. Proverbs 18:24 says: "A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." I found that my "friends" left me when I got into trouble just as the Bible says they will, but God was at my side all the time waiting for me to call for His help (Acts 17:27,28).
The second way I found young people destroying their lives was by greed. They see something they want and take it at the cost of another's injury in many cases. They have not been taught that the way to get things honestly is by hard work and education. They see others steal and rob on TV and think that it is cool or okay. The one who steals always pays a heavy price. The Bible speaks about greed, too. Please read Psa. 17:12; Prov. 15:27; Isa. 56:11. Greed is the downfall of many good people and their families. Yes, their families suffer along with them from shame and reproach.
The third way that many young people destroy their lives is by lust of the flesh, eyes, and desires. What a person dwells upon will soon become actions. If a person reads or focuses on pornography, illicit sex, and such like, he will instill impure thoughts into his or her mind and heart. The more one thinks about these things the stronger the urge and desire becomes until they become uncontrolled actions. Read the story of David and Bathsheba. David looked, lusted, and such led to the actions of adultery, deceit, and murder (2 Sam. 11).
I had to come to prison to learn the truth about my actions, but you can learn the truth right now where you are. You don't need to come to a place like this to learn. It is a very hard and lonely place. John 8:32 says: "And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free." I now belong to and hang with Jesus. He provides my needs, desires, and keeps my focus on His kingdom (Matt. 6:33) and on the needs of those around me that I may not fail.
---Mark A. Kennedy